Clothes Shopping

25 November 2017

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Yesterday I went clothes shopping - I needed to buy office attire as I don't have any, well it wasn't the easiest experience and I remembered why I hate clothes shopping.  Now I am not average height ( thats the first problem), second I am now classed as a average size ( 16) now with that being said every size 16 isn't cut as a 16 and some are bigger some are smaller.  So after many hours of wandering around the shops and with a pounding head-ache I came home.  Yes I did find some clothes and I also got some shoes.......shhhh hubby doesn't know about that as I didn't show those bags.

 But I have to say the shop that I thought would have the most work wear didn't, the store that I thought would have heaps of good sales didn't and the clothes that I did get have made me want to join a gym so that I can fit into the mould that has been pushed by fashion designers and the clothing buyers for the stores.
 I now understand why many people shop on the internet - so they don't have to go to the shops and try and fit into clothes that are made for ladies who are tall and slim. I would like to see the designers take models of many sizes and body shapes  into account when they put a collection together, but then if that was done they would loose money and would go out of business.  I guess that is why I have started wearing more and more rockabilly dresses - there are some companies who dresses specifically for us plus size girls.

So on Monday I start my full time job, this will be my first ever full time job - unless you count staying home and looking after the kids.  Now I am excited but I am also terrified, I am terrified because it is unknown, I am going to be taken out of my comfort zone and I am going to have to let the reigns ( on the kids) go and trust them to get themselves sorted. Now being that my 2 can't remember to brush their teeth in the morning ( I have to remind them) I think that I have cause for worry.

So on my last weekend as a lady of leisure I am getting all of the laundry done and trying to have some time off - its not working. Yes I am getting the laundry done, but time off I guess I am never really off duty.  So as I type this I remember that I have washing in the machine that needs to be pegged out and school uniforms to wash.

I will try and post during the week but please be patient if I don't - the weekend is looking very good for posting.

Toodles XXXXXX

UMMMMMMMM

23 November 2017


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Proud Mummy Moment, I found out yesterday that Carrissa's reading and Comprehension age is 15 she is reading 3 years above her actual age - now that is bloody brilliant  and I couldn't have been prouder of her.  She is in the top three at school in that area, maths on the other hand well we won't discuss that as it is kinda disappointing but learning is hard and not everybody gets it.  The switch will flick for her one day and then all of the concepts she struggles with will become so much clearer.

OK so here is the deal, about a month ago I applied for a Full time job, went for he interview was told I had the job and then there was nothing - it is a Government Job.  So I rang them last week and well the contract had changed but I still had the job and I start on the 27 of this month - that is on Monday.

   First of all I am freaking out cause I am going to be working full time, secondly I am freaking out because I am not sure how I am going to be able to mange to do the following - keep up with the laundry, ironing, keeping the house clean, the baking, cooking of the meals. I have never worked full time before - it has always been part time so that I can be home for the kids, and still do everything.  So for all of the Mum's out there that do work full time how the hell do you do it? I have been getting up earlier than I usually do so that my body is in the routine and is able to cope with the fact that I am starting work at 8am - will have to be out the door by 7am because of the traffic.

So I am rushing around trying to get stuff done this week so that come Monday morning I can leave the house knowing that I have left Hubby and the kids with not much to do.  My head is in a fog, I don't know where to start and I need to start thinking logically about it all.  So with that being said, I am going to start the laundry write my shopping list and menu plan.

Toodles Kylie XXXXXX

I'm not ready for this

22 November 2017

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This morning I have had to do something that I new would happen but honestly wasn't prepared for it.  I had to take Carrissa to High School today, she is doing a bridging class ( there is a huge difference between Western Australian and Victoria Education standards, and WA is behind) now this is going to be going on in the school year - it gets put in her timetable.
So dropping her off ( I hung around for as long as possible) I kinda had the thought she is soo little, I can't believe that she is going to high school next year, Oscar is in his last year of Primary School next year and then he will be off to high school and before I know it they will be Graduating and going off into the big wide world without me.

They are not going to need me to help them as much, won't need me to tie shoe laces, pack their lunch and that is kinda scary.  Now I am not a helicopter parent if the kids fell over I would pick them up dust them off give them a cuddle and then send them off to play - and they generally did what caused them to tumble.  I never wrapped them in cotton wool, I let them play in the dirt, l let them try things I didn't wish the time away but now I am wishing that I could wind the time clock back just so I could have more time with them.

After reading that it makes it sound like I am heading into a mid-life crisis, I don't think it is.  I am just not ready for the next chapter of my life, now I don't plan on becoming mutton dressed as lamb, getting a sports car or doing anything like that but I am left to wonder how I am supposed to deal with the kids growing up so fast, them not needing me as much.  Yes they still need me but now it is going to be different I am going to have to transition to being a friend and not the boss.......how do I do that?
I think my first step is realising that I have kept the little humans alive this long and to relax the reins, it is now time to guide them and hope that they go the right way instead of dragging them along.

So now I am going to have a coffee and quietly sob in the corner as I look at baby photos of the kids

Toodles xxxxxx

When it rains it pours

20 November 2017

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What a week we have had, last week I had Oscar at the Drs because he was complaining that his ears were sore ( he has a history of ear infections), Hubby told me that he has to fly back to Perth for a couple of days - he left on Sunday, Oscar is complaining of constant nausea, I was awake at 2am this morning and then up at 5:30 and I have made two loaves of bread and neither has turned out.  The first didn't rise properly, the second did rise but didn't cook properly in the middle.  So I am going to have to throw both of those out and start again.

The weather is  glorious here at the minute and I am loving it.  The sun is out, there is a gentle breeze its not to hot - I think it is going to get to 28C today my type of weather. The birds were singing very early this morning I think that is why I was awake so early. Daylight saving is good in this regard - it is still sunny later and we are less inclined to sit in front of the telly and we are eating later so we are not snacking - I have found that my clothes have been shrunk!

Well Christmas is just around the corner and for once I have actually started getting organised, I have most of my Christmas cards written, I have the food that we are having planned,I have most of my decorations sorted and have planned out how I want it to look,  I am still struggling with what to get the kids - Carrissa wants Lego but the one she wants is $150 but it will keep busy for ages, Oscar wants a fit bit.  I did tell them that this year it will be one big present and lots of little bits and pieces, the thing is I don't know what bits and pieces to get and I don't want to go over board because I want the kids to realise that its not about presents but about being together and remembering the true meaning of Christmas. They need to realise that there are people who are not able to be with their loved ones on Christmas and there are those who can't afford to have a Christmas meal or presents so I think that I will have to get then to figure out how they can make somebody's Christmas a bit more special.

Ok that is all for today, Toodles xxxxxxxx

Should we be worried.........

November 10 2017

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You may be wondering what this post is going to be about and it is about a topic that is more than likely going to cause some discussion.  Now normally my stance on Politicians is that they  all lie, the the only way they can get a lie straight is if they had a pine board strapped to their back.

As those who read this blog know that read this Blog know I am in Australia and we are Allies with the United States of America we watched the electoral race - I remember where I was when they were counting the votes and making projections.  When it was announced that Mr Trump had been Elected my first instinct was to cry, my first thought was the world has just changed and we will never recover.  The day after the results the world felt - well my part of the world felt different and then all of the news reports of the protests of people holding signs saying he is not my President, immigration websites of Canada and Australia crashing seemed to bring home the reality of the situation.

As time went on I became more upbeat, I understood why he got voted in and I sincerely hoped that he would do a good job.  Then as time went I started to wonder if this man  who cannot seem to control what he says on twitter, in speeches to Scouts, doesn't seem to be able to negotiate his way though some high profile meetings of foreign leaders was the one for the job.  There were brief moments where there was a glimmer of hope and then he manages to say something and the light dies.  As this squabble with North Korea escalates I can't help but think that he has done more to add fuel to the fire than to hose it down  to the point where my son is terrified  that Australia is going to be bombed and for a 11 year old to be thinking that instead of wondering if Batman is better than Superman is not good.  You see North Korea's biggest supporter is China which is on our doorstep, it used to be that Australia was so far out of the way that there would be no chance of us being attacked but that has changed and well it is very scary.

So Mr Trump please please pull your head in, stop inflaming the situation by tweeting rants, going off script that the speech writers have spent many hours working on.  Please be the President that I know you can be, one that is uniting the world not one who is trying to tear the world apart.  I know you want to make the USA great again but do it by being proactive - embrace changes in the many different colours that make up America, yes start producing things in America again but remember those people that make the products you use come in all shapes, sizes, colours, religions, economic backgrounds and gender.
Please remember that you work for the government you don't run the government, get out onto the street, talk to the people - not just as their President, not as a Billionaire but as their neighbour somebody that they can respect.


I promise that this is going to be my last foray into the political areena, and on Monday I will be back to my normal self.

Toodles XXXXXXX

Adoption

9 November 2017

Hi and Welcome to Kylie's Life, todays post is going to be something out of left field, you see I have always know that Hubby and I were meant to have more children than we do.  At the time of having my two - they are not even 12 months apart, I was struggling badly.  Sleep was hard to come by, I wasn't eating properly - I just didn't feel hungry I needed help ( the Dr wanted to put me in hopsital but I said "no because then people would know there is something wrong) and by the time help had arrived I had gone in search of my own , found a routine and stuck to it - which helped greatly, I was able to control certain things and that made it so I didn't feel like my world was going to spin out of control, I joined a plagroup so that I was out of the house talking to other Adults and my kids got to play with other kids around the same age and so  it was then that we made the decision that we weren't going to have any more children.  It was through going to playgroup and my routines ( some of which I still do to this day) helped me get out of the black hole that I was in, now this is not going to work for everyone and if you feel like you can't cope please get some professionl help, talk to somebody.
I have always had in the back of my mind about adoption and I have broached the subject with Hubs at first he was dead against it but now I think he is starting to warm to the idea and give it a great deal of thought.

So I have ben researching it, finding out the process and at the same time wondering what the hell has gotten into me and if I am doing the right thing.  The rate of infant adoption are so low and the need for permanent care places a huge amount is needed.
 The difference between permanent care and adoption is the birth certificate thats it, and when the child is 18 he or she can then decide if they want their birth certificate changed.  The financial responsibilities are the same, the care is the same, the love for the child/ren is the same  I guess for me I am finding it harder to get my head around the fact that the child/ren are not going to have my last name.  Now you may think in todays day and age that is not going to make much difference but it is the sense of this is my family, our last name kinda connects us all together in one small way - a sense of belonging kinda like being part of the wolf pack for Mowgli ( Cub Scout reference sorry), so for the time being I am going to leave it up to the 7 gods ( GOT reference ) .  Am I wrong in this?  The kids keep asking for another baby brother or sister and being that I am unable to have any more children am I being selfish?  These are the questions that have been going around and around in my head, along with how is this going to affect the kids, how is this going to affect our extended family, how is this going to affect our immediate family, am I going to jump every time the phone rings, how am I gong to feel when we are matched and then the birth mother says she wants to parent her baby.  I guess the emotional side was never considered and that is something that I am going to have to really think on.

What are your thoughts? Have you been through the adoption process? Are you currently going through it?

Oh Lord please give me patience

8 November 2017

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Ok so here it is this morning Carrissa is crying, and we aren't talking the TV cry we are talking the ugly cry where your face is red, tears are rolling down her face and the snot is running out of her nose. She is very tired because she was up for most of the night because she kept going to the toilet - it seems she had tummy ache. But she is also at the age where puberty really kicks in, she has a little "period pack" in her bag and to be honest I am expecting a phone call from the school saying come and get her.

So Oscar is off his crutches - thank goodness, on the weekend he was out scooting up and down the street.  Hubby and I told him to be careful and go easy being that he has just hurt it and been on crutches for a week.  He didn't hurt it and was out for hours with the kids in the street.
He spent time out in the shed with Hubby building a seat out of wood pallets and he was having a blast - he figured out that he was doing school work ( he was having to measure angles and do measuring)  but he was having the best time.  I don't think he spent any time on his ipad for the whole weekend - which is great.

I really need to get my butt into gear and get back to menu planning and budgeting, I have kind gone off the rails and it is making me feel out of control.  I don't like not knowing what I am going to be serving for dinner, and what food I am buying for the fortnight.  I try and stretch the $$$ on the food budget - I don't have to buy bread now, I buy fruit and veg at the market - it is way fresher and last's longer.  I also need to take into account the fact that Oscar doesn't like some of the stuff Carrissa likes ( vice versa) Hubby doesn't like some stuff and doesn't really do left overs. This is going to be difficult.

Ok must away as I have a very busy day today - laundry needs to be folded, pegged out on the clothes line, bathrooms and toilets cleaned,ironing to be done.  It seems that the minute I finish, I have to start all over again!!!.

Toodles XXXXXX

Long Weekend

November 5th 2017


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This weekend in Melbourne is a long weekend for some, you see on Tuesday it is the Melbourne Cup - it is a horse race that stops the Nation.  It is 2 1/2 minutes where Australia stops, the day where ladies where new frocks fascinators and heels. The men are required to wear suits - to the track, office sweep stakes are run, lunches are held and it is generally enjoyed by most.  But  there are many who drink to excess, forget that they have to put rubbish in the bins that are provided and the race track is left looking like a rubbish tip.  I would like to go to Melbourne Cup whilst here but have ben told you don't get to see anything, the lines to the toilets are far to long, the lines to get food are far too long and the food is vastly overpriced.  Last year I was in Perth so I spent the day at a friends, the sun was shinning, lunch consisted of plates of nibbly bits and there were some alcoholic beverages if you chose to drink them - I took Ginger Beer and Lemon Lime and Bitters as I had children to pick up from school and the police were out in force doing RBT - Random Breath Testing.

So as I was saying that it is sort of a long weekend for those of us in Melbourne - you see on Tuesday it is Cup day and most people are taking the Monday off as well so for some it is going to be a very short week, and hubby is one of the lucky ones who has a 4 day weekend.

Toodles XXXXX

oh crap

3 November 2017


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Well today is going to be a warts and all post, as you know we moved across the country, now we took a hug financial hit doing that. You see I don't have a job  yet and my Hubby is having to cover all of the costs and well his wage is not stretching as far as it did in Perth - I had a job so it meant we had a little bit of a buffer.

This move was supposed to be the one that set us up so that we could get a little bit comfortable and not have to worry as much and well I have to say that so far it is not happening.  I can't help but wonder what I have done wrong in a past life to be getting all of this crappy luck that we have been having. I started my Vision Board with the things that I want to happen but at the minute I am not feeling positive about them because I am so stressed about not being able to stretch the $$$$ as far as they are supposed to - if I stretch them any further they are going to snap back and leave a huge welt on my ass.  As a mother and wife it is my job to make sure the wage stretches, do I swallow my pride and ask my Mum for a bit of help to get us out of the hole for this month?  I am a 40 something year old women who is looking at the prospect of having to run to her Mum for some financial aid and frankly that is not sitting well with me.  So other than selling my body or a kidney - my body has born two kids and had a heap of pizza so its not in the best shape and my kidney well that has had to filter a quantity of alcohol in its adult life so it probably wouldn't be in the best shape either!!.

Never having to ask for help I don't know if I can now, I have always managed to find a way to get through. Hindsight is proving to be a wonderful thing at the minute and I can't help wonder what if at this present moment in time but it was once pointed out to me that living in the past never gets you anywhere because you always have to keep moving forward.
 So that brings me to my next thought how can we move forward and what can be done so that we are never in this position again? Do I buy a Lotto ticket and hope for the best along with every other Lotto buying adult in Australia? or do I pick myself up by the bootstraps and really start playing to my strengths and stop this woa is me?  Well I am going to do both, I am going to make sure that we are never short of money again- see positive thinking already,  and that we have have the life that we deserve.  I don't mean fancy cars, overseas holidays and a fancy house I mean enough money behind us so that we don't have to stress, enough money so that I can say to the kids yes we can go and get that instead of saying no you are going to have to wait till next pay day and to be able to go out for dinner once a fortnight without having to worry if there is enough money in the account to be able to pay for it.

All I need to do now is figure out how I am going to do this.

Toodles XXXXX

Not again

2 November 2017

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Wow so much has happened since I last posted first of all I had my birthday yes it is official I am now 40 something - you all thought I was going to reveal my age but sorry not going to happen!!!
So we all went out to dinner and it wasn't to a flash restaurant it was to the local one pub that has a buffet and I enjoyed that more than any meal I have had. The best presents I received was a book of Christmas stuff from Kikki K - from the kids, and a Christmas planning workshop at Kikki K from hubby.  Now I can probably hear you say why the Christmas stuff well as you know we have moved across the country so this is going to be the first Christmas where I have to do everything - usually we all descend on my In-Laws and chaos ensues with the ripping of paper, food being pulled out of the oven, dishes being done, food on the BBQ, the aircon being on so the table decorations are fluttering to the ground - it is a really great day.

So this year I have to get my butt into gear and get Christmas cards written and posted, the house decorated, the gifts wrapped, food cooked - I am going to be doing trials of the things I have never done before so that I don't poison anybody!!!!.   While it is only going to be Hubby and the kids I need to make this Christmas extra special.

Oscar fell off his scooter and is on crutches - it just happens to be the foot that he broke last year, then sprained when he was out of his moon boot and off his crutches.
So they are thinking that it may just be soft tissue damage but if he still can't weight bear next week he has to have a CT scan to find out what is wrong.

I was offered a fulltime job but don't have a start date yet, I am starting to get the feeling that I am never going to start there and the universe is trying to tell me that I am meant to stay at home .  Now if that is the case I have no objection and I can use the time to get the house in order, improve my cooking and crafting skills because honestly that have become so bad that even Patterson - 4 legged fur baby looks at some of the food and is "I'm not eating that", my scones lets just say if I had been alive in WW11 and they shot them out of a cannon it would have been a short war!!! now being that I am from farming stock and grew up in the country being able to make scones is pretty much in necessary skill - so glad I didn't marry a farmer!!

I have started wearing my 50's inspired dresses again, I feel normal in them, over here people don't stare at you and make you feel like you are the odd person out now if my house looked like I dressed then I would be very very happy.  I would love to have a phone attached to the wall, a big free standing oven - the one that I have picked for my house has two oven's in one and a gas cook top, a cottage style garden, a white picket fence, lemon tree in the back yard, sheets flapping on the line.  I think I was born 20 years to late - I would even change my name if I could, I remember telling my Mum that I would have made a better Rose than Kylie.  I think that if I had the chance I would dress the kids and decorate the house in the era I really belong in, is that wrong or am I just somewhat slightly strange?

Toodles XXXX