WTF

15 March 2016

Hi there, you are probably wondering why I am typing this on a Tuesday morning well as I mentioned in the last post I am dropping down to 4 days at work and Tuesday is my day off YAY - I seem to have a full day of stuff to do.

Ok you are probably wondering about the title and trust me I mean WTF, so on Sunday the aircon shit itself and it was once again bloody hot and yesterday it was hotter than a snakes ass in a wagon rut -it was 40c and dropped to 226c last night.  To make matters worse we were getting a thunderstorm - we got a couple claps of thunder, a couple bits of lightning, and a few drops of rain.  So I text the landlord ( first time), the second time I rang them, then third time when hubby got home and had a look at the problem ( the aircon isn't working and it is hot it doesn't need any explanation) so we are chatting away and then the words are said - I know you work so I will have to come and let myself in with the repair man, now I am used to getting the what do you do all day speech when I was a SAHM but to get the you work and well it is a problem because you can't be there to do the job that I have to do speech is a little hard to take.  In Australia if you are a SAHM you seem to be a second class citizen, you don't work so there for you are not contributing to society in any way.

When did being a SAHM become some sort of disease rendering isolation, judgement and generally loss of respect?, I used to think it was in the 60's when women started burning bra's and hating men.  It then hit me it wasn't then - Germain Greer once said "I never said women could have it all ( and your a bloody fool to believe it if they can) I was saying they should have a choice, a choice to work or a choice to stay at home. Yes society has changed and yes women have a great many choices and we have a damn long way to go to get to the equal work equal pay, and the rate at which we are payed but as a person who has been on both sides of the fence when is being a SAHM or housewife going to become respected once again or has society slid to far down the rabbit hole of not offending, political correctness that if we dare have a opinion we are likely to be trolled, have death threats, and be shamed on social media or the world to see?.

This didn't start out to be a opinion about feminism - I do believe that women should be payed equally and have better representation, I do believe that women should be able to choose weather she wants to have the career or be a SAHM ( if funds permit), what I don't believe in is women bitching at other women because they are a working mum or a SAHM.  What I don't believe in is being made to feel like I am not a member of society because I chose to contribute by raising two children who are going to carry my legacy of being contributing members of society, I do believe women have a choice, a choice to be able to do what they want to , a choice to dream, a choice to decide who they love and a choice to be themselves.

Well I chose to be a a SAHM and I chose to go back to work, did I choose to miss out on my kids school events, sports days, not being able to spend time in class with them before the bell goes? In a way I did and that was my choice, would I choose to be a SAHM once again if I could hell yes, would I choose to make my opinion heard probably not but it is my choices in my life that shape my life and the lives of people around me.  So it comes down to this ladies, gentleman, the choices we make are going to affect lives but at the time of making those choices we are doing the best we can for us and the people who we are connected with, don't be afraid to make a choice and don't be afraid to dream big - if you don't reach for the stars then you will be too afraid to climb.  So with that being said my friends climb and make choices, if you choose to work while having children or stay at home remember you are doing the best you can right here right now.
I am now off to wake up the kids, have my second cup of coffee and enjoy my day off.
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